Premarital Counseling

Fights worth having

I often tell couples that therapy is about learning how to fight. Disagreement isn't a sign something is wrong. It's a natural part of being in relationship. What matters is your ability to say what you're thinking, how you're feeling, and what your partner's impact is on you, without triggering each other's defenses.

In our work together, I'll help you identify what you actually feel, practice saying it in a way your partner can hear, and build on listening, reflecting, and asking real questions. It's not always about agreeing. It's about feeling seen.

What we'll talk about

Every couple is different, and we'll go where your relationship needs us to go. Common topics include:

• Communication and conflict. How you each handle stress, what your fights tend to look like, and how to repair afterward

• Money. Spending, saving, debt, and what money means to each of you

• Family and in-laws. Boundaries, traditions, and the families you each come from

• Intimacy and sex. I'm willing and encouraged to talk about sex, because it matters

• Roles and the household load. Who does what, and what feels fair

• Kids, careers, and where you're headed. Big decisions are easier when you've talked about them early

• Together and apart. Building a relationship that holds both closeness and independence